You don’t need money to be attractive to women.
You don’t need to be tall.
You don’t need to have a magazine worthy body either.
To understand how to be attractive to women, you have to understand how attraction works. Women are attracted to value, and most guys understand this – the problem is they don’t understand what type of value women are attracted to.
Lots of guys try to project the wrong type of value, usually by talking about their high salary job, or by acting in an overly nice way.
A perfect example of projecting the wrong type of value is the guy who always ends up in the friend zone. This guy presents little value to a woman in terms of attraction, but lots of value in terms of friendship.
She keeps him around to get rides and free dinners, and he provides her with these things to secure her companionship.
He resents her for not being attracted to him, but he doesn’t realize it’s because he’s projecting the wrong kind of value.
Women want social value.
For the most part, men spend their lives building professional and financial value, and the reason they struggle with women is because they try to attract them by projecting it.
Any guy who has tried to attract a woman by talking about how much money he makes, his position at work, or his BMW will know most women could care less about professional value.
They want a man who is confident, fun to be around, and easy going. Taking care of your body and making her feel beautiful won’t hurt either.
The socially valuable guy is the one who’s laughing with his friends, telling stories and having a good time, teasing her playfully and making her feel desired.
Ever notice how you seem to be more successful with women when you’re out just having a good time? It’s because you aren’t approaching women with a hidden agenda, using lines or stories to get her to like you. In fact, you aren’t trying to get anything.
You’re just in a good mood, spinning girls around, saying whatever comes to your mind, and everything seems so smooth and effortless. You’re GIVING value instead of trying to GET value.
Women are attracted to guys who aren’t afraid to put themselves out there.
Women are attracted to men who are confident, funny, laid back, and outgoing. The type of man who isn’t shy about expressing his interest and speaking his mind.
Every woman likes being around a guy who feels good about himself and makes her feel good too. Make a conscious effort to develop these qualities, and become the guy with a cool, interesting lifestyle and an attractive personality.
Guys who try to take value are easy to spot. They’re out at bars and clubs wondering what to say, how to act, and generally have no idea what to offer a woman – which is why they feel the need to develop pickup lines and techniques.
If you’re a high value guy, you don’t need to come up with witty stories or lines, you can just approach a woman and be yourself. Value takers typically get frustrated when they’re told to “be yourself” because they haven’t developed an attractive self, and the advice doesn’t work for them.
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