As a culture, we are obsessed with normality.
We want to know what’s normal, what’s average, and where we fit along the spectrum. Last month on Google alone there were over TWENTY MILLION people that searched “how can I be normal?” In the same time frame, more than TWENTY FIVE MILLION people asked Google “how do I fit in?”
I wonder if any of these millions of people stopped at any point to ask themselves how normal is defined.
What exactly IS normal, who decides, and is being normal a worthwhile goal to have?
People imitate what they see in magazines and what they see on TV instead of being comfortable with what they think is cool. People look outside themselves to try and figure out how they should act or what they should wear because they’re so concerned about fitting in. I’m not saying you should act like a confused teenager, but if you base your interests, passions, and social group around what other people think is cool, that’s a problem.
Why stifle yourself for the sake of fitting in? Stop giving a shit about what other people think, about what side of normal you’re on, and start being yourself.
Cool is whatever you think it is.
Who cares what everyone else is doing? Give yourself permission to be who you want to be.
If you see a shirt you like, don’t stop and think about whether or not your friends will like it. Don’t ask yourself if girls you don’t know will look at you and think you’re cool.
Take it off the rack and buy it.
You naturally connect with people similar to you, but if you aren’t being yourself, how will you ever connect authentically with anyone? If you pretend to be something you aren’t, you’ll miss out on making connections with people who actually share your interests, and you’ll end up around people you’re pretending to be like.
Be comfortable with who you are and own it. You’ll be a much happier, more attractive (and much cooler) person.
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