Most people have an idea of how their life is going to be. They have an idea of where they’re going to live, how much money they’re going to make, the type of job they’re going to have. But this weird thing happens when you ask them how they plan on achieving all their goals: they say “one day” and then whatever plan they have. It’s like people think achieving a whole bunch of crazy shit can be done in a couple years once they’re old and done partying or something.
Maybe it’s some weird thing with our generation because our parents told us things like “if you can dream it it’s possible”, “if you want something bad enough you’ll get it”, and all these other inspiring things.
I’m sure they meant well, but it’s easy to see how a child would interpret these messages literally. The result is a whole generation that seems to believe their lives will magically improve somewhere around the age of 30. Until fairly recently I was one of those people; I figured I would just go to school, keep my grades up, and when I graduated it would be stacks of fat cash and endless vacations.
So what happened to my dreams of fat cash?
A few years ago I realized I had to make serious changes or my life wasn’t going to be the way I envisioned it. Don’t get me wrong, I was by no means in dire straits or anything. Even if I took zero action my future would still be decent, I would be guaranteed a comfortable life with a nice car, nice house and a six figure salary. What bothered me is underneath it all my life would be the same – getting up, going to my job, coming home and waiting for the escape of a vacation. I’m not down for spending 10 years in school to get an upgraded version of what I have now. The idea of feeling this way about my life FOREVER scared the shit outta me.
I, like most people, want something . . . different. I imagine waking up in foreign, exotic places, being excited to start my day, having incredible adventures and meeting new people. I imagine one day I’ll look back at my life now and not understand how I coped with the complete lack of passion in day to day life, going to a day job and listening to the same boring shit from lifers at whatever company.
I’ve met SO MANY people who feel the way I do, people who wish for so much more out of life but for whatever reason never sack up and go for it. Instead of taking action they waste their whole lives delaying, procrastinating, and die having never really lived. The thought of ending up like that is by far my biggest fear.
If you always try to be totally prepared before you act, you will never act.
You will die preparing. It’s very counterintuitive, but when it comes to living your ideal lifestyle it’s far more efficient to act and deal with the consequences than to try and anticipate everything and over prepare.
If you want to live in France, you can spend years taking French lessons, saving money, planning things, or you can man up , buy a ticket and get over there next week. Once you’re there, you will either adapt or die. We’re so spoiled in modern society that the thought of starvation or homelessness as a possibility is enough to scare us out of action. Our ancestors survived apex predators, an ice age or two, plagues, wars, famine, and who knows what else, but most of us are too scared to move to a new city or change jobs. Insane.
Stop procrastinating, and start designing your life to be the way YOU want it to be. Live where you want, build the career you want, do the things you want to do. Start that business, write that book, whatever it is as long as you’re passionate about it and it makes you happy.
Or just dream about it all for a few decades. Up to you.
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